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It is a good
thing at any stage of a marriage to evaluate yourselves with temperament
analysis. Whether enhancing a good marriage, shoring up trouble spots,
or endeavoring to heal serious problems, the temperament analysis is a
valuable asset.
Many of our marriages are sad pictures of people
fighting to have their own way, each determined to win over their
opposition, others are in the same house but have different agenda's and
constantly go their separate ways.
Lines of communication are
non-existent or fuzzy at best. We see new books
coming out on the bookshelves, we see talk show after talk show trying
to present new concepts and solutions to age old problems. What is the
answer? Do we even know what marriage is?
Marriage is simply a close or intimate union of two people. When we look
into what that really means we see that a union is an alliance, a
grouping together for a specific purpose, a combination, a single whole
made up of parts.
When we are joined together in matrimony, we make a merger of two
separate entities into one. The true concept of marriage is a sharing, a
pulling together, a melting together into the unity of one.
We are not suggesting that you become non-entities when you marry, but
merely, that your focus is now geared for the good of, and the promotion
of the whole rather than for that of self.
The best scenario for any marriage is that there can be healing and
wholeness brought to everyone in the home where at all possible.
Divorce, the alternative, carries many scars for all involved. I urge
you to make a conscious effort to improve the quality of your
relationship. Learn your strengths and weaknesses and how to compliment
them, thereby building the strongest union possible. It is vital that we
gain insight into each others motivations and characteristics to
dissolve misunderstandings.
As you learn to appreciate yourselves and your partners unique design,
and begin to work toward meeting your respective temperament needs, you
will be encouraged as you see positive changes.
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As you continue to evaluate, improve, and adjust it will bring
your marriage back into the arena it belongs. Strive for unity.
Remember that "a house divided falls, and great and complete is
that fall!"
Premarital Counseling Test
Anyone steadily dating or considering marriage would be wise to examine
themselves, their belief system, and that of their potential mate.
A premarital counseling assessment is good start.
All marriages are not made in heaven, and many unions are a disaster in
due time. Misery, heartache, and failure need not be on the road you
choose if you only check it out first!
All dating
either leads to
 marriage
and a long-term commitment, or a severance of the parties involved. The
preface in pre-marital suggests that it is a preliminary time of dating
before marriage as well as a preparation time.
We need to be wise in our choices. There is so much more than goose
bumps and physical attraction involved in a life time commitment. Are
the qualities there that are important to you? Trust, stability,
respect, mutual goals and interests, the same moral values,
selflessness.
Do you see signs of criticism, control, manipulation, jealousy, anger,
or stubbornness? You need to be careful. The temperament analysis
premarital counseling assessment enables prospective couples to see strengths
and weaknesses in themselves and in each other; you will quickly learn
whether you can live with and compliment each other, or whether your
union would produce very unpleasant consequences.
In an effort to avert divorce in a world where
the divorce rate continues to rapidly increase, we strongly
recommend you look at the whole picture, in truth, of what life would be
like together.
A solid base of truth and understanding are so important to your
happiness; Life has enough obstacles of its own, why add more in your
choice of a spouse. This is one of the most important decisions of your
life and will leave its mark on you, good or bad, for years to come.
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